They would be people with problems themselves (bipolar disorder, cutting themselves, shoplifting, drug using, getting arrested, putting me in situations that I got arrested for, etc.).
Even so, for the past several years I often find myself praying.When I do pray, it is always about my mother who is living with Alzheimer’s disease.Throughout my life I always found myself being friends with people who weren’t really true friends, and leaving behind those who would really be there for me when I needed them and were true.But by the time I realized what I had been doing wrong (a senior in High School), it was too late and the only friend I had left was just considered my "friend" to me because I didnt have anyone else.When you feel too nervous or shy to be with people, be with people.
Do the opposite of avoiding regardless of your anxiety. To this end, there are various clubs and organizations on campus made up of students who want to be involved. With the help of medication, psychotherapy and your own courage, you can overcome these problems.
Your hope was to have dorm mates with whom you could go out and socialize but none of them were able to do that. I am fairly certain that you have a health center on campus that includes a counseling center, a psychiatrist to administer medications and counselors with whom you could talk.
I want to urge you to take advantage of the service.
Because I am so shy I was hoping that since I chose to have 3 roomates at least one of them would want to meet new people and then as long as I had one by my side I would have the confidence to meet new people.
But none of them wanted to go out, so I too stayed in our dorm room all the time.
Now it is sophmore year, one of those girls transferred, and the other two are in singles. Shes really nice and we get along great but we have virtually nothing in common with each other. I think, "why would anyone want to be friends with someone who has none." People come up to me all the time in the elevator of my dorm or in my classes and I feel like I have nothing to say, and make the simplest situation awkward.