In other words, going on a hiking weekend with the boys does not diminish the bond we share.Like women need the affirmation of their girl friends, guys need the companionship of other men. Show us who's boss and give us good directions—you already know we don't do well asking for them.Don't be ashamed to hold on to those things that make you different from us, like how you care about smelling nice or reminding us of empathy. Relationships, at first glance, seem to impinge on that.
Here's the standard line on men: We're simple, straightforward, limited—and usually perfectly happy to leave it there. Unfortunately, that performance is more designed to conceal than reveal us. But here's the single biggest thing women don't get about men: Masculinity is a complicated performance we agree to in order to be seen as men.Or if your daughter has an athletic talent, his testosterone-fueled guidance may teach her more than just competitiveness.Honoring what men know based on their experiences is just as valuable to the young as the insights of women.Women should remember to give credit where credit is due. Fathers Are Just as Important as Mothers It can seem, at times, that the world elevates the feminine over the masculine and that the lessons men can impart are outmoded or regarded as Neanderthal.
But when a bully is picking on your son, your husband showing him how to throw a punch is not nonsensical.We'd even go so far as to say that, in the best relationships, love that is asserted each day deepens and extends.Lost in this, however, is the belief that time spent enriching oneself also enriches partnerships.For instance, it's easier and more "masculine" for us to talk about the great sex we had rather than describe the great conversation afterward.So, a woman ends up knowing the male script, but not the man.This kind of solo time will refresh us and we'll come back with more for you. We Respect You as Females—and Love What Makes You Women It is sad to say that equality in our times means adopting the worst of both sexes: Men get more sexualized and women can be cruder. Be the Boss in the Bedroom Two words: Unleash yourself. Your explanations will heighten our intuition and your pleasure. Our First Commitment Is to Ourselves One of the biggest complaints by women (for the second, read #8) is that men don't commit.