A study conducted by China Daily interviewed a cross-section of people to see if they said “I love you” to their parents. When it comes to marriage prospects, Asian guys take into consideration the advice of his parents.
Many people interviewed had never said those three words, and one 56-year old commenting “Saying it aloud is embarrassing for me.” Of course, even in an upbringing where being emotionally expressive is not encouraged, one can still learn how to communicate feelings despite the odds. Sure, an Asian guy will think bubble tea is a perfectly acceptable venue for a first date. Asian guys will almost always say “Yes” to dessert as a date spot. It’s more common for a Caucasian male to independently pursue his desires without asking for anyone else’s approval. Although Asian guys might take awhile to confess their undying love, but that’s only because they like to take it slow.
Before you make any accusations of me making sweeping generalizations, note that my points here are completely biased according to my own sample size. White guys are much more laid back and are happy to carry on the conversation for another 30 minutes while the check is laying on the table; some are even willing to go dutch to further showcase their support towards gender equality. But, enzyme or no enzyme, don’t think this will deter an asian guy from schooling you in a drinking game though. Asian culture emphasizes family and collectivity, so it is quite the norm to take care of your parents while living under the same roof. There are many behaviours that are emphasized in a traditional asian culture.
And because of this, sometimes, there is some truth to the cultural differences of people raised with diverse upbringings. When the dinner cheque arrives at the table, the Asian guy will swoop in like a properly trained ninja and attack the dinner cheque before you can even do that “reach” for your wallet. When it comes to alcohol consumption, according to research, the ‘Asian Flush’ occurs due to a deficiency in an enzyme called aldehyde dehydrogenase, which is part of a vital process that digests alcohol.
So I’m here today to dispel (or confirm) some of those myths, but only according to my own experience. This swift technique is an ancient move passed on by his ancestors – a learned behavior through many many years watching his parents challenge their opponents to who gets to the cheque first. Headache, red flushing, even itchiness will occur after a few sips of alcohol. Many asians brought up in a traditional upbringing (both men and women) choose to live at home with their parents until they get married.
There are many myths and stereotypes when it comes to dating asian guys.
Some are completely outlandish and some are, well, a little more spot on. Census Bureau, 40% of Asian females will marry a non-Asian male, whereas 20% of Asian males will marry a non-Asian female. In fact, there’s even a website which acts as a forum for asian men reclaiming their “asianalitiy” – and they are pissed that their potential asian wives are shacking up with non-asians.
For example, at the dinner table, it is a blasphemy to serve yourself food first and immediately start eating. Unfortunately, we are influenced by what we see in the media whether we are conscious of it or not.
You serve the person you are dining with first, and always offer the last bite. Most depictions of Asian males in the popular media are not the same as their Caucasian counterparts.So in the case of this stereotype, it really depends on the person. Think crepes with fruit compote or shaved ice cream, their way of romanticizing the occasion involves making the girl happy first before letting themselves pick a place that might suit their own taste. When one gets paired with an Asian man, however, you don’t just marry the man himself but you marry his family as well. And when they do, they want to be sure that she’s the one.If you see an Asian male holding on to his beau’s shopping bags or Louis Vuitton purse, that doesn’t means he’s “whipped”, he’s just being helpful. Asian guys are taught by their traditional parents that in order for them to meet the right person, you must already be a successful individual with a lot to offer. Caucasian guys are told they are going to meet a lot of people first before finding the right one. Myth 10: Asian guys don’t like public display of affection. Traditional Asian parents show love through immense generosity, helping out financially, and feeding you 24/7. In a culture where preserving “face” and appearances is of utmost importance, there is a major emphasis on always keeping your cool, being proper and composed.Theories explain that this dates back to the nature of Confucian teaching – where displaying one’s emotions publicly is not encouraged. Alan Montecillo logged on to Ok Cupid and started filling out his profile.Because this is engrained at such an early age, this may cause some Asian men to continue withholding emotion as they grow up.