Despite the title, this is not a book telling teens not to date.
Realizing that practical steps matter, most often they want tips or steps they can take to build their relationship in Christ. (Protip: this last one is definitely not a winning approach.) 4:5-20. This can actually become a problem, especially because you're not actually married.There are some rather obvious tips like praying for each other in your daily devotions, encouraging each other to read the Scriptures, setting appropriate boundaries (emotional, spiritual, and so on), and pursuing sexual holiness. These devotions together can develop into a couple-centered spirituality that begins to replace the church-centered relationship with God that the New Testament actually prescribes.In fact, I'll go out on a limb and say that if your relationship is a serious drag on your commitment to obeying Christ's commands to gather with the body, this is actually killing your relationship with Jesus, and is therefore, by definition, not a “Christian” relationship. Women, you want a man who has solid, healthy relationships with other men in the body of Christ.Be as jealous for his time with body as you are about his time with you.Indeed, I don't know a single godly couple who would tell you otherwise. We need to feast on this truth regularly, or we will be tempted to draw strength from other, lesser sources, like your own relationship. First, they do the negative work of preventing the greatest danger in any “Christian” dating relationship—no, not sexual sin, but the human tendency to make an idol out of the beloved.
Usually this idolatry justifies sexual sin and so many other relational pathologies.
Bringing a fresh approach to dating relationships, Eric and Leslie Ludy tell their story and show how true love can bring satisfying fulfillment and romance to Christian teens that are faced with the cheap, sensual passion promoted by the world around them.
They offer tools to build a God-honoring relationship throughout the book.
They use their insights into the way Christian teens think to provide advice that teens can relate to and use in their everyday dating lives.
Written by Blaine Bartel, this book doesn’t just focus on how to find the right person to date, but also how teens can be the right person for someone else while avoiding the dangers of dating in today’s world.
A heart that doesn't submit to listening to the law will be hardened against any call to repentance—that’s the death-knell of any godly relationship. Unless regularly reminded of the grace of Christ, the heart will begin to sink into sin, go into hiding, and find its deepest affirmation in things other than Christ—like an idolatrous focus on your relationship, for instance. ) into an idol, you want them weekly pouring out their hearts in praise to their true Redeemer and Savior.