It means that you allow yourself to feel OK instead of feeling nervous, worried, or frantic. There’s no amount of analyzing, probing or searching for signs your ex-boyfriend still loves you that will give you relief over worrying what they might or might not do…It means you take on the belief that things always work out exactly as they should and The truth is, everything always works out as it should, but sometimes this can be hard to see in the day-to-day experience of life. The truth about people is that everyone is always going to do whatever they want to do, so it’s in your best interest to surround yourself with people who do what you want without any effort on your part.and every moment you’re unhappy you push the guy further and further away.
MORE: How to Redeem Yourself After Acting Needy What’s the deadly mindset/perspective that will guarantee you act needy?It’s believing that you could “lose something” or that something could happen that would create a “lack of something” in your life.Moreover, it’s in your best interest to live your life in a way that brings you happiness in your moment-to-moment existence without effort…and abandon any perspective or pursuit that has you feeling crappy in your moment-to-moment experience in service of some imagined better future.He said he worships the ground I walk on and should never change because I was perfect in the relationship and will go far in life whereas he feels like he has nothing to offer since he is grieving and stuck in a job he doesn’t like. I was dating a woman who really was a great girlfriend, but I was totally not in the right place to be in a relationship. when men don’t feel like they’re “winning” at life or that life is good, they want to shrink away and withdraw from the world.
He suggested we stay friends but I told him that would be too hard on me and he said I can contact him anytime. Men want to mentally work out whatever is bothering them, solve it, and then they’ll re-emerge, ready to conquer the world.I told him I would give him space while he figured things out but he said he couldn’t ask me to do that.I asked if there was a chance for us once he got things sorted and he said he isn’t sure if he sees a future. I remember, years ago, when I was extremely unhappy with my job and a few other areas of my life.That doesn’t mean I think the person “probing” is a bad person or that they have a bad intent. I do want the woman I’m with to be OK though; I don’t want her to worry or be upset.It’s more like I don’t want to feel exposed and vulnerable while I’m already in pain. And I don’t want her to see me as anything less than the man that I aspire to be – the man that I am when I’m at my best.or else I won’t be happy,” then you set yourself up for tremendous unhappiness.