Dating advaice

So many people start dates from one extreme or another instead of a place of grounded confidence where they are open to actually enjoying themselves.

A lot of women write to me about being introverted and the problems that entail. Their friends are having the time of their life and meeting quality guys, yet they are stuck in the corner sipping an overpriced cocktail.

Sometimes horror stories about them can make for fun discussion, but don't ever bring your ex into the conversation if it's not called for.

Sometimes it feels like there's no one out there to date. "Please don't assume we're going to the nicest restaurant in the city because I won't take you there.Dainty foods (read: salads) seem to have a low correlation to fun and enjoyment.First few dates, make the food good, simple and completely forgettable so you can focus on each other." —Max S.There are different reasons that a guy might not pick up the tab (some that might not have anything to do with you), but if you're into him, avoid looking too disappointed.

You don't want him to think you expected it." —Josh F."The food you choose on dates says volumes about your character.

If we end up grabbing drinks later and a woman insists on paying, I really like that a lot.

It shows me that she's genuinely interested in spending time with me as opposed to wanting to be wined and dined regardless of who she's with." —Nate N."If the guy doesn't say something and take the check off the table to pay, it's probably fair to assume that you're going Dutch.

I'll take you to a dive bar with amazing burgers to see how you react.

If you're flowing with it and cool, we've got a winner.

If she literally can't keep his name out of her mouth for a couple of hours, it makes me feel like she's clearly not over past issues.