It can cause anguish for everyone – especially children who are probably holding on to the idea that their parents will eventually get back together.
Even after time has passed and a parent is ready to reenter the dating world, care should be taken when explaining this situation to children, for which it can be stressful and confusing.
If you are preparing to begin dating after a divorce, or are unsure of how to tell your children that you have found a new boyfriend or girlfriend, keep these considerations in mind: We hope these tips will help ease the transition and benefit your family’s emotional health and happiness.
The number-one thing to keep in mind when deciding when to introduce a new partner to your kids is timing after your divorce. Even if both of you are in love and seem to have a lot in common, breakups are common and kids get caught in the crossfire.
Next, the setting and length of the first introduction is crucial to success.
Meeting in an informal setting may help your kids feel more relaxed.
Rather than planning a long visit, it’s best to have a brief, casual meeting with few expectations.
Renowned researcher Constance Ahrons, who conducted a 20-year study of children of divorce, concluded that most children find their parent’s courtship behaviors confusing and strange.
On the other hand, adolescents may appear more accepting of your new partner than younger children, but they may still perceive that person as a threat to your relationship.
If so, you owe it to yourself and your kids to build new relationships thoughtfully.
I’ve witnessed many new relationships go sour when a partner is introduced to children too quickly.
My best answer is to take your time dating after divorce and don’t introduce your new love to your kids if you are dating casually.