Are you looking for a partner who will be fun to have around *until* something bad happens, or someone who would stick with you?
If someone won't give you a chance now with an ileostomy, that's probably an indication that they wouldn't stick with you through thick or thin later on, so why waste your time?
He used to make fun of me and tease me about my colon and the side effects that came with a high dosage of prednisone.
Finally, at 87 pounds and unable to walk from y car to the door without resting, had colon removed August 2014.No more medicines, No more pain, and I am enjoying food again!I don't even worry so much about the guy not handling things, b/c I do think that any guy I'd want to be with would accept all of me, but I'm worried about my fears…like I'm going to push away a guy before he can push me away. I feel like I will be even more of a freak than I am now. I just can't see how any guy will truly love me and I know I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone. Hubby doesn't notice my scars or my ostomy, in fact he's just so happy I am alive, I could have had anything done to me and he would be fine with it.How do you learn to accept your own body and not constantly apologize for it or crack jokes about yourself or feel inferior because you're different? How do I get to a place where I'm ok with my ostomy and with my bladder stoma and giant surgery scars? This morning I had gotten out of the shower and was standing in the bathroom when my towel dropped.I know that there are some serious concerns with fertility in women who have a jpouch and it would be unlikely for me to have a healthy pregnancy; how do you explain this to someone I would want to spend my life with? Would love to hear from some of you about your experiences telling your SO about this stuff.
It's a normal concern, I'm sure all of us have had this question to one degree or another.for me, being sick had a much bigger impact on the relationship than having a bag ever did....52 years old, female. Problems with obstructions, surgery scheduled for Dec 5, 2014.**WARNING: KIND OF NEGATIVE--LOTS OF FEARS**I'm scheduled for colostomy surgery on Jan 27th, along with a few other surgeries at the same time, but I'm basically terrified about not finding a guy after surgery.Sick for way too long with Crohn's (or possibly UC) Proctocolectomy and permanent ileostomy in Feb 2011. Haven't had much good luck with them before surgery, and I know I'm always saying that I wouldn't want to be with a guy who had a problem with my physical "issues", that I want a guy who loves me for me, but what if I don't find him? I don't want to spend my life alone, I've had enough of that. spina bifida (dx age 20), chronic back pain (surgery: tethered spinal cord, spinal fluid leak), neurogenic bladder (augmentation w/ stoma), chronic migraine, TMJ, bulging discs etc C3-C6 (pinched nerve), GI issues (colostomy, bladder sling, and hysterectomy Jan.2015), bipolar type II, anxiety, fibromyalgia, and more. I too was already dating my hubby when I was diagnosed with Crohn's and we have been together a long time (21 years).Hey folks--I'm new to this particular forum, been a regular of the UC one for a while now.It is looking like j pouch surgery may be the next logical step for me.I dated with my ileostomy and I've dated with my j-pouch.