They dated casually for a few weeks before they split up and we got together, and three years later the same friend gave one of the readings at our wedding.Whether you're gay, straight, bi, or not into labels, dating a friend's ex can absolutely be done without sacrificing your friendship — you just have to follow a few simple guidelines.1. It's common to assume that anything shared with you is by default shared with your partner as well; however, your friend might be much less comfortable speaking to you in confidence if she thought the details of her personal life were going to be relayed to someone who used to share her toothbrush.Try not to spend your free hours thinking about why he changed.
If you need to vent about one of them, find a neutral party.3. For instance, if your friend doesn't want to go to parties where her ex will be in attendance, don't pressure her.But don't assume she doesn't want an invite if you haven't asked!Save it for your diary or for anyone who didn't date him. This can be extremely tempting if they ended on bad terms and you know you'll find a sympathetic ear.However, in order to maintain a healthy relationship with both of them, it's crucial that you never seem even a little like you're taking sides in their breakup or casting either one as the bad guy, even months or years after the fact.My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half.
I knew him for a year before we got into a relationship. At first we were in the same country but different cities, and we used to meet up as much as possible every month.
It's difficult to meet people you're romantically interested in beyond an already-defined circle, and outside of your city's queer scene, most people you run into are likely to be straight.
Even if you meet someone to whom you think you have no previous connection, a 10-minute conversation almost always reveals that she went to high school with your college roommate, used to be on a volleyball team with that girl from your book club, and had a six-month stand with your favorite barista.
Don't do this ever, but especially not if his last girlfriend is the person you're going rock climbing with Sunday.
No matter what his answer is, it's going to make things weird.
Since that move, he has changed into a completely different person. We fight a lot because he has changed, and he says things that hurt me. He calls for phone sex, and otherwise we don't talk very much. I think it's because I was cautious enough to avoid dating him for the better part of a year before I finally said yes. – He Changed All you're getting is phone sex and heartache.