I am not interested in another phony fake wolf pretending to be a sheep of the Good Shepherd. Anyone who asks for a full body shot objectifies people and is forming an opinion about someone in the same way they would as they scour a catalog for various items. Reply I have been single three years now and remain friends with my ex bf no sex involved but he wants to I don’t we don’t argue about it I tell him I’m just not interested in having sex anymore it’s a lie im just not interested in having sex with him. in fact I would keep a low profile and just browse other people’s profiles and try to see who might not be a narc…
1) It’s an indicator that they have no interest in your personality or you as a human being. THIS is the perfect time, if you plan on dating again (personally I’d enjoy my newly recovered freedom for a while and avoid dating sites, but that’s me and you are not me) to go back and look up cyber safety documentation and learn how to not give away too much info…
My psychiatrist encouraged me to go on POF because it was free, and a cast of millions.
Of the ones who were not obviously loaded, obvious predators, or blatantly insulting – that is, about 75% – The balance wanted a pen pal or a woman to call them. Reply This sounds like such a frustrating experience.Thank you for sharing – I checked OK Cupid recently to find friends in the area I had moved to, and it was a total waste of time for me as well.When in my early 30’s I did newspaper ads, then after a while starting in my late 30’s, I did the online thing, one of my first was ok cupid…I met someone there in my early 40’s who turned out to be a narcissistic weirdo who only wanted one thing, and it wasnt a committed relationship (at least with me), unfortunately, it took me a while to get over that emotional obsession, by the time I did, it was really too late for me -nature had taken away my ability to have children…I have had 100% bad stuff from every online dating service I joined and that has been over a dozen and the men there…from being stood up, to meeting psychos who boldly put up pictures that were not them or from 20 yrs prior, to being abused verbally or emotionally, to being lied, to promises of love that never happened, to being coaxed to give of myself just to be taken advantage of…You can see, I don’t need an article to keep me away, but keep spreading the word, so others might know. I asked what was the day’s weather like in Santa Ana, he gave me Raleigh’s NC weather, like 20 degrees hotter than CA. I know there are out there vulnerable people that can fell for people like this guy… I’ve been dipping my toes in the water, but the idea of dating really scares the crap out of me!Reply I messaged with this guy from Santa Ana, CA on OKC. He “grew up” in South Africa (That’s a big red flag) overseas people always end up asking for money. My point is; if someone approaches you mentioning south Africa, the UK, a military career, most likely it’s a scam. Those were only the ones in person and I at one time close to 100 messages from different people on the site that red flags were so bad I did not even respond to the message. I have been trying out Bumble which gives women all the power, so that one feels the safest so far. Sure, you can anticipate some level of flack – that’s what it is, right or wrong, to be female on the internet. They wanted some kind of “relationship” with a girl without putting any work into it. In the real world, there is always an effort – at the very least, to be civil.I accept that it will take time to get over (in this case) my BPD lover. \ Until then, I am grateful for my health, my friendships, my sobriety, and for my accomplishments. Reply Hi Kim – Your work helped me recover from a love affair with someone who had textbook NPD, Thank You! While recovering from NPD boyfriend, I did use POF and OKC, looking specifically for buddies with similar interests.
Three years later I’m off the sites because I’ve found real love, but a few of my current best friends are men I met on these sites.
the bad grammar used to be notorious as well, I think that has improved these days. I still cant help but swipe left for any guy with a selfie because my inner voice screams “Narcissist!!!! Through training with people like Kim, it’s a lot easier to spot the narcissists; the I I I I aye types; the ones demanding a Rolls Royce or a Bentley; the ones that subtly insult you in the opening words, or start a quarrel (wadya mean you are a female contractor; bet you don’t get dirty.) I do get dirty, and I’ve been doing so since you were a gleam in your Daddy’s eyes. Very recently, I just pulled the plug on everything.
My grammar is not perfect, but my first language is spanish, so my apologies. I’m getting much happier with who I am, thank you very much.
Nothing worth telling – no need to upgrade the experience with a story. I remember checking it out after a long term relationship ended six years ago, and it seemed a colorful and fun place to explore online dating and see “what’s out there”.
Back then, I corresponded with three people who were too far to meet in person, and the pen friendship was helpful in re-discovering how to gradually get to know a new person.
The one man I met in person seemed very interesting and interested, but shared early on that even e Harmony had told him he was not “matchable” due to his social awkwardness.