Think of it like a spectrum with monogamy on one end and relationship anarchy on the other end (and infinite points in between and, for some, the ability to move fluidly up and down the line). Just because someone is kinky it doesn’t make them poly, and vice versa.Some folks describe their polyamory as part of their sexual or identity orientation. Remember above when I said, “the unifying keys are ethical behavior and consent”? Fore more on the kink-poly overlap, check out (Pitagora, 2016). Some poly folks say they don’t experience jealousy, but most do.
Being a Virginian or a swimmer has zero to do with my relationships and the kind of relationships that make me happy.So, while shared interests can be great in relationships, that’s still thin gruel when it comes to self-knowledge.Goodness knows my relationships are something I am deeply thankful for!woman to see a spike in representations of non-traditional dating and family structures in the media I consume, it can also be incredibly frustrating watching the frequent gross misrepresentations of my life and community.Everyone should presume less when they meet a potential partner and ask more questions about what they want their lives to look like: Do you want to get married?
, and features in major media outlets like the New York Times, CNN, NPR, BBC, The Guardian, and The Independent all showing us alternatives to the traditional monogamy narrative. So, with this in mind, here’s what polyamory’s all about…
Polyamory literally means many loves (poly = many, amory = loves).
It is a version of consensual, ethical non-monogamy that refers to engaging in (or being open to engage in) multiple, simultaneous romantic relationships. There are almost as many ways to do or be polyamorous as there are people who call themselves poly, but the unifying keys are ethical behavior and consent.
Polyandry refers to a woman with more than one husband, polygyny refers to a man with multiple wives.
The most familiar example most folks have of polygamy is the Fundamentalist Mormon practice of sister wives.
It’s easy to assume that relationship means two people, but in fact, that’s just not true.