An individual’s size, strength, politics or personality does not determine whether she or he could be abused or an abuser. and the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline (2008); CDC Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report (February 2008); and Silverman et al. Not all abusers drink and not all people who drink are abusive. See What Causes Relationship Abuse for more information.In our still largely homophobic society, the threat of “outing” someone who is not ready can be used to isolate and silence a person who is experiencing relationship abuse. Violence often continues even after an abuser stops drinking. Personality disorders, mental illness, poor impulse control, and generational abuse do not cause relationship abuse.
Teen dating violence is happening among our youth in Memphis and Shelby County.For many violent teens, it’s what they know from seeing domestic violence in their parents’ relationships, and it transfers into the relationships they start developing as young adults.See What Causes Relationship Abuse for more information.Holding abusers accountable is important because it sends a message to others that abuse of any kind will not be tolerated in our community.For more information, please see our resources on Same Gender & LGBT Relationships. teen girls report ever experiencing physical and/or sexual IPV by a boyfriend. Even in cases where a particular mental illness may cause a person to be abusive (such as Alzheimers), the abuse is not specifically targeted at one person but to everyone around during the episode. See What Causes Relationship Abuse for more information. Domestic violence occurs in all socioeconomic groups.
Women of all ages are at risk for domestic and sexual violence by a male partner, and those ages 20 to 24 are at the greatest risk of experiencing nonfatal intimate partner violence. However, abusers who are severely depressed or isolated may stop caring about the consequences of their actions. Many people are poor and most people do not choose to abuse their partners.
There are studies that report that there is more abuse in low-income populations and there are studies that report that there is more abuse in higher-income populations.
Many statistics are skewed because they come from public agencies, city hospitals, police departments, social service agencies and the courts.
See What Causes Relationship Abuse for more information. For example, abusers do not choose to hit their bosses or TAs, no matter how angry they are.
Domestic violence is not a result of the perpetrator losing control; The abuse is targeted and controlled—perpetrators choose to be violent only against their intimate partners.
In addition, during “hard” economic times, nationally, domestic violence resources are often cut and can impact the likelihood that survivors of any economic class can access safety. Many people are stressed and do not choose to abuse.