Some of these males present as little boys, ambivalently in need of rescuing or care.
Thankfully, I've been 'lucky in love' ~or perhaps I was just very careful and discerning.All my significant, lengthy relationships have been harmonious and loving.He'd dated a few females in-between his marital separation and meeting me, but I sensed it was too soon for him to attach.My voiced concerns about the wisdom of our timing, were always met with on my days off.Don't believe the hardship stories they feed you, while asking for a "temporary" loan or place to sleep. He had very disappointing and painful relationship experiences with Mother, and you're not gonna change this for him, no matter how you hard try to bridge that deficit.
Besides, no man wants to fuck his mommy, and if he does, he's way more screwed-up than you think he is.
Seducing women feeds his narcissism, and fills his core emptiness~ it's his addiction.
Since he cannot form solid/healthy attachments, he takes hostages. Initially, you may be intrigued with his unique openness and vulnerability, since you haven't encountered this in other males you've known.
Borderlines thrive on crisis, drama and chaos, which contribute to their sense of aliveness--it's the won't seek therapeutic help unless/until he's in crisis.
The catalyst might be due to severe financial or health setbacks, but it's more typically connected to trying to navigate/surmount painful relationship dynamics with a lover who has BPD features that surpass his own.
He left home to get away from There's always a childhood template that sets up our attraction to someone personality disordered.