I can't make myself care about them enough to.
I don't want to ever dissuade you from taking such an interest in another person. But, to use a poker term, you need to leave yourself some outs.Developing yourself as a person not only makes life more enjoyable in the everyday grind of living, but it provides you with natural, healthy coping mechanisms when something like this happens.Not trying to judge you in any way, just saying that if you invest in yourself heavily, find out the hobbies that really inspire you, then you won't miss the passion in your life, because when it dissipates from another person you can use that fuel to pour back into yourself. But trust me, getting outside, going rock climbing or biking, writing a couple chapters of a story you've been thinking about, painting, learning to play guitar, or taking up photography...while in the short term might not be as much of a payoff, in the long run they allow you to move past a guy like that (versus sitting at home and missing him). So I've separated my interests and the things I do into categories.And I will lose 20 pounds in 8 1/2 days if I don't sleep.
Or I can run and use 500 calories per hour for 124 hours and without sleep or eating can lose the 20 pounds in 5.16 days. If I wear something that doesn't show my shape as much and then I would only need to lose 10 pounds in 4 days. Adjusting for sleep of 8 hours and 2 hours of work and all the other things that need to happen that is 14 hours so only 675 per hour. I walk at about 300 calories per hour so that means that I would need to walk for 206 hours. As I am mentally working through this analysis, I decide to have some toast -eating helps me stay calm. Okay so I will work on losing 1 pound per day and I will eat normally so that means that I need to use 5500 calories in 14 hours - (the 2000 I am eating plus the 3500). Given that the body will use 2000 a day if there is no activity - then I only have 62000 calories to work off as long as I have no calorie intake. First category: Things that get my heart rate up, that I can't stop thinking about.The things that I think about as soon as I wake up in the morning, and that keep me smiling to myself in public all day. And then there are hobbies and my writing and friends.Second category: Things I can get mildly excited about, like going out for drinks with my friends, or going to yoga class. Those are the things that can entertain me, but don't keep me going.