Finding out if you intimidate them can be the key to attracting Mr. Alternatively, they will look at you when you are not paying attention; but when you notice, they will look away.
Specifically, men may find your style of relating to them restrictive, says research by Eleanor Maccoby, professor of psychology at Stanford University.Restrictive styles of interacting tend to derail conversations and involve contradicting, interrupting and boasting.If men are not approaching you, consider being more inviting when you see someone you like. When you are out on a date, make a point to lengthen interactions with him.An inviting, facilitative style helps achieve this.It’s an environment that breeds people to become coarse or cold emotionally in order to get to the next level.
If you are strong willed, outspoken, maybe sometimes apathetic—you are intimidating."But let’s face it, these words never really explain why that guy never asks us out.She looks you in the eye and asks for the truth—for one moment of brutal honesty: “Why doesn’t he like me? I don’t know about you, but when I tell my friends they are intimidating, what I mean is that they are just too awesome for the guy.” You search your brain for some reason as to why this fool isn’t falling over himself for your incredible friend and come up with only one plausible answer. I see my intimidating friends as strong, assertive women.These are things that I admire and wish I saw in myself. But sometimes I wonder if my quippy response is correct; is it really intimidation that keeps the men from my fabulous friends?And if they are intimidated, is that good intimidation (as I suspect), or is it more of a turn-off thing?We women have our ideas about what men find intimidating, but what do men say they find intimidating and do they see that as a good thing?